It seems that I’ve read about a hundred people’s comments in the past week about the Weekly Standard article about dating that dealt at some length with game. I thought the comments were pretty good, so I’ve got very little reason to elaborate, but there are a few points I wish could have been addressed in the article:
- First, and I think this was touched upon briefly in the article, beta males are the big losers of the new sexual order. Suppose six groups of people: alpha men (less than 15% of the male population), defined by their sexual access to as many women as they want; beta men (more than 70% of the male population), who can only have sex by “getting lucky” and then marrying, giving their wives control of how much access they have to sex; and omega men (also less than 15% of the male population), who have no opportunities to have sex at all; 8-9-10 women (few), ranging from very pretty to international supermodel hot; 4-5-6-7 women (many), ranging from plain to fair to good-looking; and 1-2-3 (few) women, ranging from utterly nauseating to just bad-looking. Now suppose that, in the past – say, in my grandparents’ generation – omega men and 1-2-3 women were all left permanently unsatisfied; alpha men and 8-9-10 women were all left permanently satisfied (at least, for the women, as long as they remained attractive); and beta men and 4-5-6-7 women were more or less generally content, with lots of ups and downs in that contentment. What’s happened since my parents’ generation is that alpha men and alpha women remain permanently satisfied, since they’re still able to attract members of the opposite sex easily, with almost no effort or none at all; omega men and 1-2-3 women remain permanently unsatisfied, because they’re still as awful as they ever were; but because of the breakdown in marriage, 4-5-6-7 women have a vastly increased chance at reaching alpha men. These middle women are doing better for themselves, and actually alpha men are doing better for themselves because they have even more options than before, but beta men suffer because their only options are evaporating: it’s very difficult to “get lucky” if the girls don’t mind being used and abused (or pumped and dumped, however you want to call it) by an alpha and don’t see the value in a beta provider, and long term relationships are disintegrating in this environment also. I know I’m not the first or even the hundredth person to write this, but these are the simple facts that drive what’s happening in the article, and I really can’t see why this wasn’t its focus.
- Second, how ethical is it, or is it not ethical at all, for a man to use game strategies and tactics to attract women? Since I first heard of game several years ago, but only heard about it in the past year in a way that got my attention, I know that I was reluctant even to consider something like it for all that time because I didn’t think anything was wrong with my personality or that I should ever consider changing parts of my personality to appeal better to girls, or to appeal to better girls. But in my reintroduction to game in 2009, I saw that it’s a fact that men and women are attracted to different things about each other: men to women who are pretty and young, and women to men who are of high status and pyscho-socially dominant. And I saw that women constantly modify and even lie outright about the things that men want in them. Girls don’t go outside without makeup. You don’t ask a girl about her age. Girls spend tremendous resources in time and money to buy clothes that make them look better. At the extreme, they even invest in plastic surgery – and it is an investment – to misrepresent their value. When I realized these things and just to what extent they’re disturbing, I became quite convinced that it’s not even remotely unethical to use negging, kino, DHV, etc, to attract them. For a while I resisted using pre-fab lines that I read on game websites and blogs, but eventually I gave up on that and now I use them regularly. It’s hard to see anything wrong with it, especially with girls who’ve obviously gone through a lot of trouble to make themselves look good.
- Third, game is out there. It must work to some extent for some guys, because some guys seem to be using it consistently and it seems to be working for them. They have effectively raised the stakes: previously a guy had to be extremely good looking (top 1%), rich, powerful or famous to sleep with multiple hot women. Now plenty of men are getting access to the best women just by knowing what to say and how to act. In any given location, there are the hottest several girls and then there are all the rest. A guy who can’t compete for the best girls because he’s not a rich CEO can hardly be blamed. But a guy who doesn’t want to compete for them and consequently didn’t take the time to read a few Game websites and employ a few tactics is responsible for his own loneliness and misery. In a sense, the popularization of Game is like nuclear proliferation: when one man has it, it’s no worry; when two men have it, it’s still no worry. But if it starts getting out there, you’d better make sure you have it or else you’ll regret it.
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1. Instead of using numbers such as 1-2-3 for the women, you should just use the same classification system as you use for the men (alpha, beta, omega).
2. I have no shame in asking a woman her age. One woman I ran across is still offended by the fact that I asked her, and would not tell me.
1. Instead of using numbers such as 1-2-3 for the women, you should just use the same classification system as you use for the men (alpha, beta, omega).
I don’t think the alpha-beta-omega system accurately describes women. The only difference between a 9, an 8 and a 7 is that the 8 is hotter than the 7 and the 9 is hotter than both. The 7 could become a 9 one day if she makes the right choices, and the 9 will inevitably become a 7 as she ages. A man is basically locked into his status for life, which is why Game is so powerful: it teaches men how to trick the system, and I believe it’s possible for a man to pull himself out of beta and into alpha if he uses Game well enough for a long enough time that he even manages to convince himself.
OK, I see your point.
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